You're wondering, "Can this guy help me?" And here is where I'm supposed to tell you about me so you'll know if you and I are right for each other.
I'll get to that in a minute. Right now, let's talk about you and what kind of man I have the most success in helping. Then you'll know better if we are a good fit.
The best fit
The guys who get the most out of working with me are the ones really motivated. They are tired of living in shame and in violation of their values. They are ready to go deeper to really free themselves from their sex-related habit.
They want to get a handle on why they are so tempted in the first place. Deal with their thoughts. Figure out what their fantasies say about their real needs. And get those needs met in a healthy way.
They're also serious about fixing the damage they have done to their relationship with their wife or girlfriend.
They want to know how to respond better to her anger or complaints or distress. How to restore trust. How to protect and care for her.
They are coachable. They know it takes strength and maturity to admit they have messed up and hurt people. And to ask for support and advice.
Sounds like you?
What to Expect
So what will we do together?
First we will work on stabilizing your habit, getting your behavior under control.
Next we will consider the inaccurate thoughts as well as the difficult feelings that might be driving the habit or making it worse.
Then we will work on addressing your life balance and getting all your needs met in a healthy way, so the habit isn't needed.
Finally, we will begin addressing some of the impact of painful experiences that may be lurking below the surface and influencing your behavior more than you may think.
If you are married or in a relationship, we will be addressing your partner's concerns and your relationship all along the way.
Of course, what we work on together depends on what you want to do.
Now about me
I enjoy helping men rediscover their power to live the life they want, to love and empower the people around them and bless the world with their gifts.
Nothing gratifies me more than helping men get back in charge of their lives.
And coaching them to boost their intimacy with their partner. Melting her with tenderness, strength and unselfish passion.
I have worked with porn addicted pastors and businessmen as well as drug addicted inmates.
And I have been coaching singles and couples in the ways of lasting love for twenty years.
I have my own history of struggle with pornography, masturbation and other sexual issues as well as anxiety, depression and fears related to love and connection, so I know what it's like.
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I enjoy biking around town, experimenting with low carb baking, collecting music, doing fiber crafts with my wife, gardening and studying human potential.
"Addiction: What we do in response to pain.
What pain? The absence of unconditional love." Greg Baer